Finding meaning in life key to satisfaction and happiness, research shows

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In the business of our everyday existence, how do we create a life with meaning? 

At the start of this year, I wrote about feeling vulnerable and losing touch with my authentic self.

I was feeling like I had lost a sense of meaning in daily life, something so many of us feel.

It’s all too easy to get swept up in the daily pressures, and the endless ‘to-do list’ that never gets done.

And while we thrive on being wanted, needed and giving our time and effort to others, how often do we step back and say: ‘What do I actually want? What am I doing in my life that gives it a sense of meaning?’

Science tells us that meaning really does matter.

I have written extensively about the search for happiness and meaning. It has been part of my own search for meaning, following the death of my mother.

And the most important thing I have learned about meaning came from the father of positive psychology, Professor Martin Seligman, from the Department of Psychology at the University of Pennsylvania. He defined the happiest life as the one with a true sense of meaning.

I didn’t quite grasp what he meant, until he explained.

“The meaningful life is about finding a deeper sense of fulfilment by using your strengths in the service of something larger than yourself and nourishing others,” Professor Seligman said.

His studies found that the pursuit of pleasure on its own had no bearing on increasing happiness, but that the pursuit of meaning itself was the strongest factor in increasing your life satisfaction.

And in my own way, I understand what he meant.

My own writing about happiness, through the lens of grief, has helped others in the fog of sadness to see a way forward.

I always remember a particular letter I received from a young mother whose twin girls died shortly after being born.

“No one else helped me understand that it was okay to feel sad and devastated by what had happened, but that it was also okay to search for a way forward into happiness,” she said.

When I read those words, it hit me. That was my sense of meaning, that I could feel so grateful to be able to help others, even if it was just one other person, to find a way forward when all hope seemed lost.

Take a long-term view when obstacles arise

My challenge to you is to consider:

  • What are you doing when you feel the most energised and fulfilled?
  • What do you love that fills you with joy?
  • How can you be more open to change and seizing everything life has to offer?